Redhead Rosie

How one modern Rosie manages work, love, family, and everything in between….

THIS BLOG HAS MOVED!

Please visit redheadrosie.com for this blog. Thank you!

Changes

Hello all!

I am sorry for the lack of posting; I have been very busy with school and life and adjusting to my new, very hectic schedule.

I am in the process of moving my blog to a domain: redheadrosie.com! All future posts will be at this site.

I am also separating out my interests in order to better focus my writing and my blogs. The setup will now be:

Redhead Rosie(Unavailable until 1/23/12) My main blog for automotive technology, being a “modern rosie”, and other mom and female-oriented stuff.

The Shorty Sews! - My sewing and craft blog, as well as the one where I will post about etsy stuff

Low-Carb Lynn – My low-carb and fitness blog

Lynn’s Book List – My blog about reading and writing (the “Book Club” will still be on Redhead Rosie)

These blogs should all be up and running as of : 01/23/2012.

Thank you to those who have followed this blog thus far! Please update your links.

- “Redhead Lynn”

Book Club Mondays: January 2012, Week 2

The books for the month of January are:

Fiction: Fiction:The House on Olive Street by Robyn Carr

Non-Fiction: You Grow Girl: The Groundbreaking Guide to Gardening

Taunton’s Complete Guide to Growing Vegetables and Herbs (Fine Gardening)



How are you guys doing with your reading?

School Orientation and Sewing Goals

         School Orientation

Well, yesterday Sasquatch and I went to orientation at our local tech school. As I have mentioned earlier, we are both attending school to get a certificate in Automotive Technology, and hope to eventually open our own shop. Orientation was about as good as orientation can be, which is to say that it was tedious and generally provided no real information. But it was mandatory, so we went. We had hoped to receive our books and uniforms before school started, but apparently they do that the first day of class. Now I have attended a few schools in my time, due to what I call my “divorce drama”, as well as due to changing my mind regarding what I feel is the best career path for me AND my family long-term. I have attended two public schools and another private school in addition to this tech school. Compared to the public schools, I like that the feel is more intimate, and the school is geared just for you and your field. Much like the other private school I attended (a health fields one, mostly nursing), the school is geared for those in a specific career, so the students who attend are generally serious about the field. Unlike that other school, I won’t spend every.single.class with the same thirty people; the classes rotate in students, apparently, with up to thirty students in a classroom. Classes are one per month as opposed to three to five per semester, which I really, really like. At least in theory anyway!

We start school this week, which means my children also return to a beloved daycare provider this week, as opposed to staying home with me all day. My son is in speech therapy, and being with other children will benefit him. His speech has reverted some since being removed from the daycare by their dad (they used to attend 3 days a week, for free), so I hope that the change on my days with the kids will help him. My daughter starts kindergarten this year, so hopefully the change to daycare will help her socialize with other children. She has displayed some bad behavior with sharing since being removed from daycare, which has to do with the current provider’s preference of my daughter over my son. Hopefully the changes will bring back all the positive growth we had seen when we first started sending the kids to the daycare provider last year.

Now at orientation, I was pleased to see that I wasn’t the only female attending the tech school. The orientation itself was for various programs (auto, diesel, collision, etc), so I don’t know how many were in my particular program. Some may be attending nights, too, like Sasquatch is, so I may still end up being the only female in my classes. But it is encouraging to see women apply themselves to technical fields. I would say that there are about as many women in the tech programs as there were men in the nursing program I attended. And having the opposite sex in the field is a good thing, in my opinion! Men and women think different, and approach problems differently, which may mean better results overall.

Sewing Goals

My glamorous sewing space

Now on to the fun stuff: Sewing! I love to sew. I love seeing what other people create…and what other people create is usually a heck of a lot better than my creations. There are so many amazingly talented people on the web, and I am always inspired to see what others are making.

If you aren’t a part of Sew Weekly, give it a go! I joined the “Sew Weekly” challenge, which means…I am committing myself to sew weekly. So my goals for this week are:

1) Sew a doll dress form to display items on my etsy shop

2) Sew some outfits for said shop (this week: denim skirt and jacket with a tee shirt)

3) Sew an outfit for court, with a matching outfit for my daughter and her doll.

Okay, so my daughter isn’t going to court. But she IS thrilled to have a dress that matches both Mommy and her doll.

The dress I want to make for myself (for court) is from Butterick 4443, probably in a gray for Winter. I also have to match my black sweater and my black flats, so something neutral is in order:

Butterick 4443

For my daughter, this dress, also from Butterick, is perfect:

Butterick 4718

"Birthday Dress" from the 2010's collection

For her doll, I am making a Bunny Bear pattern called “Birthday Dress”. Her patterns, while much more expensive than Liberty Jane, are high quality. I am also happy to know that the income from her patterns goes to her, and not some middle person.

So I have a lot of sewing to do. Court is at the end of the month (actually, 13 days), so I have to get a move on my dress! I am mostly making a dress because I haven’t yet lost enough weight to fit into my nicer clothing. My stomach is shrinking, slowly, but not quite fast enough to fit into things. And my weight is dropping slowly, too…just too slowly for court. Ugh. I’ve lost half the weight, but the other half is going to be slow until my doctor clears me to work out.

Well, duty calls! I am off to get doing everything I have to do….

A Peek into the Past: Part 2

'Nuff said

In response to Lauren at Wearing History’s post about old photos and dating them, I wish to submit just a few of my own photos to share. I have hundreds in the entire collection, of which I am in the process of preserving for my family. It seems I am the only one who cares to preserve them, so that’s what I am doing, photo by photo. I hope that you enjoy these shots as much as I do. There are more to come.

Please respect my ownership of these images; please do NOT post or share them without my permission AND a credit to me, and please do not claim these as your own. Thank you. :)

A Peek into the Past: Part 2

Er, redheadrosie.wordpress.com :D

Men don't change

Book Club Mondays: January 2012 Books, Week 1

Good afternoon, Rosies! I am proud to begin the first month of what I call “Book Club Mondays”. I hope you can join me.

Here’s the deal: Every month, I will pick a non-fiction and a fiction book to read over the course of the month. Every Monday I will post updates about how I’m doing and get feedback on how you’re doing, if you’re joining me that month. If you have suggestions for books to read, please send them my way! I love to read about any type of book, although my preference is for fantasy/sci-fi, romance/romantic suspense, and historicals. I like the idea of joining other people in making a habit to set aside a few minutes each day to read, and a month to cover a book seems fair.

You should be able to find these books at your local library or discount bookstore, which is what I did. You can also find them on Amazon and Kindle. I will try to post the next month’s books by the last week of the prior month, to allow you plenty of time to acquire the books however you see fit.

If you wish to add yourself to the list of those who are following the month’s reading challenge with me, let me know via comments or by email. I will include links to your blog if you are posting about the month’s books.

At the end of the month, I will post a book review. If you have a review that you’ve posted, I will add that link, too.

The books for the month of January are:

Fiction:The House on Olive Street by Robyn Carr

Robyn Carr is a great writer, and I am excited to finally read this one and get it off my to-read list! It’s from 2010, so it’s not new. However it definitely relates to this blog, as it is about four women and how they relate to each other as well as the people around them. This is on the back cover:

“The loss of their close friend draws four women together. And a summer spent sorting through personal effects offers the perfect challenge—and the perfect escape.

Sable—her bestselling novels have made her a star, but the woman who has everything, in fact, has nothing but a past she is desperate to hide

Elly—the intellectual who has hidden herself within the walls of academia, afraid to admit she is tired of being alone

Barbara Ann—the talent behind twenty-six romance novels wakes up one day to discover she’s lost control of her career, her sanity and her family

Beth—her popular mysteries have become the only way she can fight against the secret tyranny of an abusive husband

In the house on Olive Street, away from their troubles, the four women discover something marvelous: themselves. And along the way they realize a dream. For, in telling the story of a remarkable woman, their own lives begin to change.”

Non-Fiction: You Grow Girl: The Groundbreaking Guide to Gardening

Taunton’s Complete Guide to Growing Vegetables and Herbs (Fine Gardening)

These two books are in keeping with one of my goals for 2012, and that is to plant a “Victory Garden”. The goal of victory gardens was to bring fresh fruits and vegetables to the urban American family during World War II, since rationing was taking place and enough food was hard to come by for many.

A great site called, Vintage Veggies, talks about the history of Victory Gardens. They also sell heirloom seeds, which is a great way to save money, be green, and have a sustainable garden that doesn’t rely on the Burpee stand at your local box store.

Some other useful links on Victory Gardens:
Within these Walls
Victory Garden Plans
Victory Garden Handbook

This spring I’d really like to plant a garden in my backyard. I am luck to have a little under half an acre (total lot size) to work on, but I know some have a lot less. I hope to cover container gardening as well in the Spring challenge. Perhaps I will plan to unveil that challenge in February, since that’s a good time to buy seeds, begin growing them (if doing that early), and get the necessary tools and space prepared for growing! My focus will be on being as organic as possible, while also keeping the budget low (under $100 for the entire garden).

On being “Cute”, and Women in Automotives

Have I mentioned that I am short? Like really short.

Not “petite clothing” short. No, much worse than that.

I am kids clothing short….. say, 4’11 on a good day. A really good day.

I am what I call, “Kid-sized”. Size zero clothing is for when I am a little higher on the weight scale (say, 110 lbs). Once I get lower, I end up in kids clothing. I can sit in kids chairs. I am tiny. I am not slight-framed, as I am of Irish stock, but make no mistake that if you need someone to fit into a tight spot, I’m your gal.

Anyway, I have issues, let’s say, with people calling me “cute”. And people do it all.the.time. Really. They tell Sasquatch, “Your girlfriend is so cute!” They even tell me to my face. The problem is, I really don’t want to be cute. I want to be seen as responsible, professional, competent. Maybe even sexy. But cute? Please, please! (I have decided that “darling” is acceptable.) I am not a puppy.

I have many incidents where cuteness comes and bites me on the butt. For example, there was my Sears incident. My boyfriend and I were looking at Craftsman tool cabinets online, comparing the price and quality to Snap-On cases. We also looked at the costs of mechanic tool sets. Since we are both going to school for Automotive Technology, we need to get the best bang for our buck. Which probably means going to Sears for more of our tools. So, we were looking at tools when one of the sales associates yells at me across the floor, “Hey! I have a tool case for you!” I look over to see him assembling some crappy bright pink case. It might have been Craftsman for all I knew, but I really wasn’t in the mood for it. I did roll my eyes at him. It’s not that I don’t mind pink. It’s more that there’s an assumption that because I’m a girl, I might only want something pink. Or what else bothers me – that women don’t deserve high-quality work gear. Why are women’s jeans of such inferior quality, with lycra and what-not instead of real denim? Why doesn’t Carhartt make a little girl’s jacket that is more like the boy’s? Why aren’t there women’s “work gloves” that are more than overpriced gardening gloves? Which brings me to one of the reasons why I am here, writing this blog, and why I call it “Redhead Rosie” instead of “vintage style” or something like that:

1. There isn’t really anyone reviewing women’s work gear, or really creating high-quality products advertised toward women. Women just aren’t a market audience, and no one cares.

What frustrates me is when men act shocked that a woman might actually be interested in wood working, mechanics, or anything else manual. I am a visual and tactile learner, and so for me, I enjoy hands-on projects. I love things that are practical (like sewing and gardening and cooking from scratch), and so for me, learning woodworking, welding, or cars is just an extension of my “do it yourself” attitude. The problem is, most women were never given the opportunity to participate in the traditionally male hobbies, and have never even considered that it might be a viable career path for them. My dad is about the least handy person on the planet, and so I never knew what it was like to grow up with a parent that could fix anything. I am only now discovering how interesting it all is with my handy boyfriend, who seems to know a little bit about everything.

For most women, the gap in basic mechanical knowledge (between women and men) is so vast that women are naturally uninterested or oblivious…simply because they don’t know. It’s like saying men are destined to be bad at parenting because they don’t know what a onesie is. Yet how many men surpass their wives in the nurturing field, simply because, once they learned the basics, their natural skills took over?

It’s the same thing with hands-on jobs and hobbies, in my opinion.

Part of my desire to start this blog is to share with women the basics of all things practical, like basic auto mechanics and woodworking and other things I learn as I go. Stuff I wish I had learned growing up. Especially the auto mechanics. There is nearly nothing out there about female auto mechanics. The pickings are very, very slim. Which is why I am going to post every Thursday either about my experiences as an automotive tech student/worker, about automotive mechanics, or about other things relating to cars or other handy things. I feel that women need to learn the basics, so they not only avoid being taken advantage of, but also so they can prove that women are just as capable of learning to turn a wrench as anyone else.

I want you to try something. Do a search in your favorite search engine for “female auto tech”, “female mechanic”, “female automotives”, “woman mechanic”, etc.

If you find more than a handful of articles on women in the automotive field, kudos to you. But I bet you’ll find the same five or so I did.Which brings me to the second part of why I am here:

2. There is no strong presence talking about women in automotives as mechanics, and which also describes the difficulties faced in dealing with negative feedback, going to school, getting a job, finding gear that fits, etc.

I am here, basically, to fill that gap. I want to inspire women to do something more and branch out. No, everyone who reads my blog is not going to become a mechanic. But if I teach one person how to change her oil, or encourage one reader to try something new or out of his/her comfort zone, I will be very happy, and all the work I have put into this blog, videos, interviews, etc will be worth it for me.

Because at the end of the day, do you know what?

You can do it!

A Peek into the Past: Part 1

'Nuff said

In response to Lauren at Wearing History’s post about old photos and dating them, I wish to submit just a few of my own photos to share. I have hundreds in the entire collection, of which I am in the process of preserving for my family. It seems I am the only one who cares to preserve them, so that’s what I am doing, photo by photo. I hope that you enjoy these shots as much as I do. There are more to come.

Please respect my ownership of these images; please do NOT post or share them without my permission AND a credit to me, and please do not claim these as your own. Thank you. :)

A Peek into the Past: Part 1

Most of these photos are of the same people, especially one woman in particular, whom I believe is the actual relative. I am thinking they took a bunch of pictures as they went on some vacation. I have more of this group.

They look like they're smoking. The one on the right is the relative, I think.

Posing. 1930s?

I don't know what they're doing, but they look way overdressed to be doing it.

 

You'll notice the lady with the glasses again, too.

 

 

 

And here’s a different one altogether , one I suspect is more early 20th century (teens?):

Family photo? I love the roses they are standing beside! Very "glamis castle" type.

Yes, You Can! : On being superwoman

Sometimes, I feel like I need to be superwoman just to thrive in this world.

Most of that feeling, however, is my own doing.  As I said in my first post, I am an INTP on the Myers-Briggs scale. If you have never done a Myers-Briggs typing, do one, even if it’s a quickie internet test. Your type can tell you much about your strengths and weaknesses in all areas of your life, which will help you in making career and life choices. Anyway, I am an INTP, which means that I tend to find a lot of different subjects very, very interesting. The less I know about something, the more interesting it is to me at any given point. Inversely, the more I know, the less interesting it becomes. Which makes it easy for me to learn things I like (languages, history), and difficult to learn things I don’t (math, chemistry). While SuperDad likes to call this quirk of mine bipolar, it is really just an annoying personal trait that comes with my personality type.

[Note: Bipolar disorder is a real condition with symptoms that go much beyond superficial stuff like having many interests. My mother has bipolar and it is not something I take lightly. Please treat all mental disorders seriously.]

This means that I tend to switch up my hobbies from time to time, to keep things fresh. I never permanently drop anything; I merely rotate to keep my interests high. I almost always go back to something and finish it. It also means that I’ve changed my major several times, as well as my jobs. I have nearly 30 credits in various things that are unrelated. I’ve been to school for pre-law, philosophy, and nursing. It’s not to say that any of those things don’t interest me or aren’t viable career paths for me, it’s just that none of them were right for me and my situation long-term. I want to find the best solution. The most beneficial compromise. The clearest answer.

What I have learned, however, is that sometimes good enough really is good enough.

The Dilemma of the Modern Woman

I once went to dinner with Sasquatch’s family. They are nice people, and mean well. But these are people who seem to always have had it together. They didn’t have the experiences I did growing up, and don’t have the same worries I do. Well they do, but not to the same extent. They’ve made the good choices in life. Got the good start, the good education, the good support. Things I didn’t have and can’t really change now. Sasquatch’s mother, for example, has someone to clean her house even though it is spotless. She has always been able to afford babysitting. She and her husband made more money growing up than I will ever see in my lifetime. What struck me was a comment made by Sasquatch’s sister, who I think is one of the coolest women I’ve personally met. They were talking about the arrangement that Sasquatch’s mom and dad had growing up: one cooked, the other did dishes. I made some comment like, “Oh that must have been nice!” and sort of elbow-jerked Sasquatch. His sister came back with a comment saying, “Well, you don’t work. They did.” While I understand the sentiment, it kind of got under my skin. My last marriage was spent, for the most part, working full time, going to school full-time, raising children full-time (including long nights breastfeeding), and keeping the house clean on top of cooking decent meals. My current workload is no different. My guy, while I love him, doesn’t really help around the house even when he only “works” a few hours. That won’t change when I add work or school to the mix…it just means my job gets harder. But I didn’t say it, even though I wanted to.

Fact is, for the most part we women end up taking the brunt of the workload …whether we are homemakers or primary breadwinners. What this means is that as women, we have more pressure than ever to be up to par. We need to not only whittle into our pre-pregnancy jeans in mere months, but we must also not be too vain. You must somehow find time to take care of your children and your parents and your partner. You are cook, chauffeur, and organizer. You must also not look too sloppy doing it! We are subliminally told we must be everything, and in the end, only we lose when we believe it.

What Works for Me

While I still feel like I need to be good at every role I play in my life, I realize that I don’t have to be perfect at everything. Here are some things that help me (other than ignoring my  nay-sayers!):

1. Find what matters

Before you set goals, I suggest one thing: Find what matters. What really interests you? What do you want to be doing in ten years? What – and who- really matters in your life? What do you want people to say about you at your deathbed? If people could describe you in one word, what would it be?

For me, the answers to these took me a long time. I’m 25. I’ve been scratching at this since I was at least 12. I am only now really figuring out who I am and what I want out of life. Do I really want to be a millionaire? No, not really, although if it came my way I wouldn’t say no. I don’t need a super high-paying job. Do I want to pay my bills? Absolutely. I enjoy working with my hands, so I want to do something that allows me to get down and dirty. To create something tangible. Automotive technology allows me to be hands-on and solve problems, things I enjoy; it also allows me to work independently at times, which is just icing on the cake. I want to own my own shop in ten years (with Sasquatch), so that is something I have set my sights to. Everything else is extraneous, so I’m not going to put effort into other things. I have learned that I am happiest sticking with what pleases me most, even though many other interests catch my eye. I have to go with the most rewarding, because there is only so much time in the day. I have three children and a busy household to run; I don’t have time for a myriad of pursuits that in the end I may not ever finish. I have to stick with what matters.

For me, writing is also vital to me, so I have started this blog. This blog is one that I can see writing on for the rest of my life, even if no one gives a hoot about me or what I am passionate about (you!). I enjoy sharing my life with others, and want to help other women achieve their goals. If I never achieve all of mine, so be it. At least I will be happy and doing what I love.

“Find what matters” also means spending your time and money where your heart is. People will spend these things on what is important to them. If your children is important, show it in your time spent with them. No, you don’t have to let your house go to the pits in order to do it, but devote a chunk of your time to the people that matter, even if it’s only fifteen minutes. It will pay off in the long run, even if only in memories. Which brings me to the next point.

2. Give 100%

I have learned that multitasking leaves me a frustrated mess. If you can multitask effectively, you are a better person than I am. When I try to multitask, my list doesn’t get done any faster. If anything, I make my work that much harder by making a bigger mess than when I started. My dinner burns, my clothes wrinkle in the dryer, and the one thing I really wanted to get done doesn’t actually get done. I end up losing when I try to do too much at once. What I have found works much better is to set no-interruption mini goals for myself like setting aside fifteen minutes to sew, or completing just one cleaning task (dishes, laundry, vacuuming). Or I will remind myself to do a craft with my daughter like I promised, instead of putting if off until after I finish some other task. When I give 100% to just one thing, I find that I end up being much more satisfied with what I do accomplish, and less frustrated overall. When I am in the moment, I enjoy my life much more, and I am a much happier person to be around. My kids don’t beg for attention because they are getting my full attention often. Things get done because I don’t waste time doing fifteen things; instead I set aside time for what’s important, even if that means setting aside a few extra minutes for Facebook or returning emails. Give 100% of yourself to whoever you’re with and whatever you’re doing, and you will be more content, even if you don’t get everything done today.

3. You can’t do it all. So don’t try.

I am someone who really wishes I could do everything well. I’d love to be the perfect employee, the perfect mom, the perfect student, the perfect wife, the perfect whatever. But I am not. I am far, far from it. There are many people I know personally who are much better at each of those roles than me. I could stress about how much is expected of women – and really, a lot of is expected of us – but instead I try to simply focus on being better than I was yesterday. What can I do better? How can I be a better mom? Girlfriend? Partner? Friend? I try to keep this in mind when I make choices in spending my time, and I hope that eventually I stop making the same mistakes again and again. Part of giving 100% is picking what’s important so that you don’t have to be stretched so thin. There are some things we can’t choose. I have children. I have student loans so I have to finish school. I have bills to pay, so I have to work. I can’t change these things. But I can choose not to take on extra side projects, or take on events that will take time away from the things that I either really want or have to do.

4. Surround yourself with positive

This has been a really big goal for me this year. I have found that no one -not even me- benefits when I complain. No one cares. I don’t even care, really, except that I want resolutions. And complaining doesn’t get resolutions…it just makes me angrier. So I decided to change that, and surround myself with people, ideas, and activities that make me look on the bright side of life. If you aren’t already (you likely are if you are reading this, as so many people in my life have been rocking the positive attitude!), try this. And if you can’t surround yourself personally with people, reach out through the internet or other means. If you can’t do that, keep positive things on your mind. Read positive news. Repeat self-affirmations. Pray. People enjoy being around positive people, and you will be happier with contentment than self-depreciation. For example, I have a family member that I love dearly, but who is always very negative. She constantly complains about her life and the people in it, and then wonders why no one wants to be around her. It’s not that people hate her – quite the opposite. She’s a beautiful woman with a great personality and great ideas. She is kind-hearted and is smarter than she realizes. But her negativity frustrates people who want to help, and no one wants to be brought down. Personally, I find that focusing outward on other people and other people’s needs brings me much more pleasure than focusing inward on my problems, and in the end I am uplifted in the process. “It is better to give than to receive” really rings true. I have my “Women who Inspire Me” posts on Friday for this reason: I want to highlight women who encourage me to be a better person, or who show me what can be done if I stop dwelling on my problems and start moving toward my goals. Find someone who inspires you, and keep that person in mind. If it’s someone in your circle (and not a celebrity or other figure), talk to them frequently. Accept their advice and help. Learn from them. Emulate them.

When you excel at what really matters to you, you will find that the rest is just fluff.

What he said…

I just saw, “Crazy, Stupid, Love” last weekend, and let me say… Ryan Gosling is hot!  So when I saw this post by Gertie from Gertie’s New Blog for Better Sewing on him and his meme, I just had to check it out.

And boy, I wasn’t disappointed. Check it out for yourself.

Now, let me preface this by saying that Ryan Gosling isn’t my type. At all. Well, except for the muscles part…what girl doesn’t like a well-defined man? :D He’s blond, his face is funny, and if he wasn’t so muscled, he’d look a bit too boyish. My type is more dark hair, square face, muscular build, and, frankly, not 20 years old. The fact that my daughter has to tell me that both my ex-husband (aka “SuperDad”) and my boyfriend (aka “Sasquatch”) look alike is a bit disturbing, but also indicative that I do have a type. Douchey-looking preppy guys also don’t fit the bill for me. But the classic manliness that Ryan Gosling portrays should be evidence enough that women WILL fall for a guy who takes care of himself, appears confident, and dresses well. Women like suave and mysterious. Ryan is case in point! (So are men like George Clooney.)

My take on the tumblr collection? Hot damn!

Here are my favorites:

Heh.

And my favorite, of all of them:

Well said, Ryan, well said.

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